Saturday, December 1, 2012

Family Business!

In the eternal quest to find ways to encourage conversation, writing skills, and insight on the internal workings of sometimes difficult to understand adolescent, there is a new blog I would like to announce! is the space that my daughter, Colleen, and her poly friend, Clara, are using to discuss life growing up in poly households.

Please take a moment to check it out, comment (Gently please!  Delicate egos at stake here.), and share with other poly kids that might be interested in commiserating, developing more community, and finding commonality of shared experiences growing up with such weird families.  ;)


Sue said...

I think this is very, very exciting. I will be interested to hear Colleen's take on living inside of a poly family. I am not sure about putting her on my blog roll... That would make it easy for me to keep up with her, but I feel sensitive to her "age." How about some parental input?


polyfulcrum said...

It should be fine to add her blog to your feed. We have it pretty locked down, as far as security goes, with all comments requiring pre-approval by parental moderators.

Sue said...

Many thanks! It will be good to follow her story.

All the best,

shelley said...

Our poly triad consists of mff and m and primary have adult children who are unaware and secondary has a 14 and 11 year old also unaware.It works for us for now but how do you come out of the closet? We have professional positions in the community.I think the older kids would have a harder time.

Anonymous said...

Hi Shelley -

How did we come out of the closet?

Both Gina and I happened to blog about that:

But more to the point, it was a conscious decision to just not be preoccupied by what others think.

We decided that our extended family and our relationships were important and valuable, with or without social approval.

Admittedly, we live in the Portland, Oregon area. This is a fairly liberal place in the world and we don't really worry about judgement: there's a lot of wacky people and lifestyles here. It's not like other areas of the country.

Also, both of us own our own companies and are relatively established. We both believed that the people who'd want to do business with us - and who we would want to do business with - wouldn't care about our lifestyle.

And our kids have grown up knowing nothing but poly. It's no surprise to them or how to contend with questions posed by others.

Each of these represent different circumstances for us, it sounds like, than for you.

For us, it was all about not caring about outside opinion, trusting our relationships and competencies, and not being ashamed of who we are. The situation and circumstances were right for us at the time.