tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post141612003297797292..comments2024-03-28T02:02:33.131-07:00Comments on Journals of a Polyamorous Triad: Walking Through GardensUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-25927751573595545932010-04-22T09:34:48.569-07:002010-04-22T09:34:48.569-07:00Mono Anon again. Thanks for your response PF, but ...Mono Anon again. Thanks for your response PF, but Simon's argument that poly takes more work than mono is specious at best. The work is different in both lifestyles.<br /><br />Being monogamous takes different kind of work, and I know of some poly folks who, rather than work out their monogamous lifestyle, turn to poly as a default. And I've seen a handful of marriages fall apart because neither partner knew how to be honest and poly.<br /><br />Sorry, but you lost a reader. Best of luck to you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-23060671107296768532010-04-12T08:49:47.573-07:002010-04-12T08:49:47.573-07:00For Anonymous:
I'm going to speak for S here ...For Anonymous:<br /><br />I'm going to speak for S here a bit and say that he is sharing his own experiences in monogamy, certainly not generalizing to everyone who is monogamous. <br /><br />What makes the difference for me is that whatever way you choose to love: celibacy, monogamy, polyamory, swinging, kink, whatever it is, is a deliberate conscious choice, and something that is paid attention and given effort. <br /><br />My parents have a lovely monogamous relationship that has given me many of the skills that I value in myself as a poly partner, and I've seen them work at it. <br /> <br />Far too often, mono is not a choice, but a default, as with S's previous relationships, and going through the motions isn't the same thing as making conscious decisions, as you seem dedicated to doing within your own relationship. Kudos! <br /><br />Thank you for the feedback. Hope you keep finding some value here for yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-13321160671164254052010-04-11T01:06:59.767-07:002010-04-11T01:06:59.767-07:00First off, let me say that I am monogamous and hav...First off, let me say that I am monogamous and have been reading your blog for about a year. I like the openness that the three of you seem to have, and I am very sorry to hear of the recent separation.<br /><br />One of the reasons I continue to read your blog is because the three of you seem to have an ethical and honest approach to relationships. I am trying to learn and apply those principles in my love relationships, even though they are only one at a time.<br /><br />I was disappointed to see your characterization of us monogamous folks as jealous, petty types who are too lazy to understand the complexities of the poly lifestyle. <br /><br />Maybe, just maybe, we're making a conscious choice, just like you. It's just that our choices are different. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-77383242804944965662010-04-08T17:22:44.702-07:002010-04-08T17:22:44.702-07:00Love this. :)Love this. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03957454443123526866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-39467987653731517432010-04-06T17:56:36.655-07:002010-04-06T17:56:36.655-07:00True, but it takes more than one person to try and...True, but it takes more than one person to try and work this out. If only one person is trying to improve the situation, you might as well give up because your efforts will be completely wasted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-41839028542414088932010-04-06T09:53:54.829-07:002010-04-06T09:53:54.829-07:00Wow. You can hear the respect and devotion you hav...Wow. You can hear the respect and devotion you have for them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com