tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post5059676847802557795..comments2024-03-28T02:02:33.131-07:00Comments on Journals of a Polyamorous Triad: Jealousy as hungerUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-36522819413936733292011-01-04T20:49:18.240-08:002011-01-04T20:49:18.240-08:00I have oft wondered why I was never the jealous &...I have oft wondered why I was never the jealous 'type' and thought I was strange sometimes , I mean to say <br />' Isn't it normal to be jealous ? ' has been a question I have asked of myself before.<br />Then I realised , jealousy is a wasted emotion and so I have never let it enter my head but wasn't I then being really selfish ? I don't think so ! - just SMART . My partners have been saved of the drama/trauma of such a thing in their lives, I have benefited in the same way and so aren't 'we all ' happy ? <br />Oh ? What about the 'other person ' in the equation ? Opps - they get no joy from seeing me insane with jealousy ! - Good ...I have won again - that's the way I see it. <br />Simple - but it works for me/ us ! ha lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-50492477176757204772009-06-08T17:24:16.888-07:002009-06-08T17:24:16.888-07:00"Jealousy= feeling insanely inferior" T..."Jealousy= feeling insanely inferior" This is certainly one brand of jealousy, but there are other flavors as well. <br /><br />The flavor of envy-jealousy, where someone else is getting something you want from a partner, is really one of my particular favorite struggles. <br /><br />Fear of the unknown is another type of jealousy. This can often be disarmed with actually meeting and getting to know a metamour. While I suppose it could be seen as inferiority, it's pretty normal to fear the unknown, regardless of context. Jealousy based on lack of knowledge is one of the easier ones to counter. <br /><br />Yes, each of us must put in effort on our own behalf to process jealousy feelings. It is our responsibility to ourselves and our partners. Our partners can, however, be some of the strongest resources toward that end.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-72267105247799959482009-06-07T22:28:56.271-07:002009-06-07T22:28:56.271-07:00I have typically considered the topic of jealousy ...I have typically considered the topic of jealousy with a mind towards preventative medicine, of checking in with other partners to assure their "slice of the pie" was ample & satisfying. But recently I found myself pondering a different angle about the topic and it came to me that<br /><br />jealousy = feeling insanely inferior<br /><br />If this is so, then, yes, as a partner I can help to assure him/her and offer preventative medicine (like your analogy of a snack before grocery shopping), but the REAL treatment is related to the jealousy holder's sense of self worth.<br /><br />Of course, one primary benefit (or burden) of S.O. Relationships is that they take us into core material unaccessible through any other venue. But no matter how strong my desire for another's personal healing, I can fix no one else; each must do his/her own inner work.Jayne Doughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08905811493542579887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-11915001093655999662009-06-07T09:28:38.878-07:002009-06-07T09:28:38.878-07:00Let's hear it for the universal mind! Thanks...Let's hear it for the universal mind! Thanks for the links. We'll have to take a look and see about fitting that in, as well as reading your take on the hunger analogy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-10569686345717129512009-06-06T23:57:45.310-07:002009-06-06T23:57:45.310-07:00Whoa! Great minds sharing the same brain waves? He...Whoa! Great minds sharing the same brain waves? Here's Friday's Live Journal entry on The Source of Our Emotions using the same dang 'hunger' analogy. Uncanny...<br /><br />http://sweet-bee1948.livejournal.com/10983.html<br /><br />I'm inspired by work I'm doing on Nonviolent Communication and this makes for a great tie-in to that. Have you signed up for "The Day of Jealousy." a by-donation teleclass? <br /><br />http://www.reidaboutsex.com/dayofjealousy/<br /><br />I was really impressed by the free mp3 file Reid & Beth offered earlier this month on "Battling the 8 Armed Octopus of Jealousy" and have it up on my Mac.com web space if anyone else didn't have a chance to nab it.<br /><br />As usual, you rock!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com