tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post4607513389293688393..comments2024-03-28T02:02:33.131-07:00Comments on Journals of a Polyamorous Triad: Seven Unworkable Rules in PolyamoryUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-48895145932727009652013-02-27T14:29:45.630-08:002013-02-27T14:29:45.630-08:00I'm a big fan of negotiating the bed thing too...I'm a big fan of negotiating the bed thing too. Of particular "yucky!" to me is getting kicked out of my bed (the place I always sleep) to clear the space for sexy time for others, if I would like to be sleeping. <br /><br />That said, there are accommodations that can be reached, and compromises to be had, even when space is tight. Polyfulcrumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04951940427248512720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-29388285502655875892013-02-20T04:57:03.301-08:002013-02-20T04:57:03.301-08:00Yes, not everyone can have a completely open polya...Yes, not everyone can have a completely open polyamorous relationship and there are people that are understanding. <br /><br />Also, Don't Ask, Don't Tell arrangements work perfectly well with some people. It is only incompatible with someone who is insistant on meeting and often befriending their metamours. It's offensive to suggest that people who operate this way somehow have inherently flawed relationships. Just like it is offensive when they suggest people who need to meet, befriend, and have friendships with their metamours are insecure and incapable of trusting. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185392299875772158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-56806444674907574162013-02-12T00:46:08.479-08:002013-02-12T00:46:08.479-08:00I think your first rule is actually workable. My p...I think your first rule is actually workable. My partner is married and our neighborhood is small and unimaginative. We keep a low public profile in the immediate town. I don't feel like a dirty little secret, I feel like I'm protecting him and his wife from scrutiny (my life is so openly unconventional already, I wouldn't care about the scrutiny).Reidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14232165571384266703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-83114859671862419752013-02-08T15:45:39.212-08:002013-02-08T15:45:39.212-08:00Veto Power. My partner suggested that we could vet...Veto Power. My partner suggested that we could veto each other's non-primary partners in case one of them turns out to be abusive, criminal, etc. We dropped it pretty quickly when we realized how easily it can be abused. Plus, we trust each other to make those decisions for ourselves if a relationship is unhealthy.Mingahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12247697398685293306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-75069866308051882192013-02-08T15:44:15.611-08:002013-02-08T15:44:15.611-08:00Veto power. In the very beginning, my partner sugg...Veto power. In the very beginning, my partner suggested that we could have a veto over each other's non-primary partners, in case one of them turned out to be abusive, criminal, etc. We dropped this rule pretty quickly when we realized how easily it can be abused. Plus we trust each other to make those decisions for ourselves if a relationship is not healthy for us.Mingahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12247697398685293306noreply@blogger.com