tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post1478790809475205815..comments2024-03-12T05:32:21.824-07:00Comments on Journals of a Polyamorous Triad: Brother HusbandsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-1540633188971677742011-04-06T15:30:02.344-07:002011-04-06T15:30:02.344-07:00I've actually touched on this subject quite a ...I've actually touched on this subject quite a bit with my friends and we are coming up with a list of people with certain qaualities that we would love to make the "perfect" mean. Even though EACH man we would pick would only instill one certain quality... ;)HvnsFlnAngelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08846036425543539899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-35819012940566854952010-11-23T20:14:50.861-08:002010-11-23T20:14:50.861-08:00It works! Especially as a method of birth control....It works! Especially as a method of birth control. I saw this video when I was originally questioning.<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7HKmu3eMEkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-2083264426942928612010-11-22T12:07:01.642-08:002010-11-22T12:07:01.642-08:00I am a woman with two male partners. They tend to ...I am a woman with two male partners. They tend to refer to themselves as co-husbands. They would definitely object to brother-husbands, although their relationship is very much like brothers.<br />I likewise would not consider myself the partner "in power", however in a V-shaped relationship, being the "point person" requires a great deal of personal strength. It definitely reflects the level of personal responsibility and maturity required to thrive in such a configuration for all involved.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-5713127137536776842010-11-15T10:38:59.528-08:002010-11-15T10:38:59.528-08:00We have two men in our triad, and it's working...We have two men in our triad, and it's working out wonderfully. I'm also not a fan of the "sister wives/brother husbands" terminology. My guys are partners for me and for each other, plain and simple.<br /><br />I also find it annoying to automatically assume that whichever gender is in the minority must be in power. (For example, that I have some kind of matriarchal power that parallels patriarchal power in religious polygyny). We are just people who happen to be together, and happen to be the genders that we are. Love doesn't need to have so many categories applied to it.<br /><br />That said, I would also appreciate some "equal time" in the media for families with more than one male partner. I think it presents a much more balanced view. Thanks for the interesting post!Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981689547836576618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-34757002253343171972010-11-15T02:24:52.699-08:002010-11-15T02:24:52.699-08:00We are a FMF triad, and although I don’t see that ...We are a FMF triad, and although I don’t see that changing any time soon, it is for a practical reason, rather than a philosophical stand.<br />I have never desired to have a long term, live in relationship with more than one man, mostly because I prefer female company, I think the overdose of testosterone will have me running for the nearest convent,. However, with two adult females in the house, I feel that it would be less scary a prospect to have two men, but just myself with two men? No, I wouldn’t cope very well.<br />.........<br />To Anon, I must say I totally agree with you with these awful terms, even worse when couples request a 'bisexual sisterwife' urgh!!!Natja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404345771022225541.post-66314904410178114652010-11-15T01:30:29.337-08:002010-11-15T01:30:29.337-08:00Hmmm. Maybe its just me, but when I hear the terms...Hmmm. Maybe its just me, but when I hear the terms "brother husbands" and "sister wives" I think "incest". Why couldn't they come up with a better title? I am in a loving triad relationship and I welcome mainstream exposure to polyamory, but I am hesitant to trust a show called "sister wives" to explain to people en masse what we are all about. Then again, it is my understanding that these people are polygymous, in the traditional Utah sense, with one man and several wives. I am a more new-age polyamorous twenty-something in a serious relationship with a girl and a guy my age, who are also dating each other. I don't suppose I should expect these people to represent me. It's hard, you know? The term 'polyamory' casts such a large net so as to be inclusive of so many different kinds of relationships, but in doing so it convolutes the very concept of what is and what is not considered 'poly'. Brother husbands is a great concept to show the flipside to a patriarchal poly relationship, but PLEASE change the name already!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com